So I’m getting a divorce. There, I said it. I have been going through a lot of grieving these past months, a lot of sadness, anger, and many completely sleepless nights, but I am finally able to accept it; my marriage is over.
My future-ex moved to Connecticut in February and decided not to come back. She has started a new life without me. We disagree over who will have primary custody of our son and I don’t know how much time it’s going to take for a judge to decide this, but my son has been living with me this entire time, I’m not giving him up, and I’m living every second with him as if it’s my last.
Although I finally have the strength to publicly announce my new lifestyle status as a divorced (in progress) father, I am not able to talk about the details. Everything hurts, everything is raw, nothing is easy. Perhaps I will go into the details of what happened in the future, as a way of dealing with everything. But not now; it’s much too soon.
Folks, I most heartily do not recommend divorce as a fun way to spend Spring. Do I need to say more?
My friends and family tell me that I will have a future, that I’m a going to date again, that I won’t be alone for the rest of my life. Dating? Me? I’ve thought about it for a long, long time. I’ve come to realize that while my heart was broken, it wasn’t removed from my chest. I want to fall in love again. I want to look at a woman, see her smile, and know that life is indeed good. Of course I don’t want to fall in love *now* for cryin’ out loud. I don’t want a *relationship* at all. My son is my focus; he’s everything to me. I’d kinda like a friend though, if that’s not asking too much.
I am now resolved. I’ve decided that I would indeed like to go see the new Star Trek movie with a new female friend, and all I have to do is find one.
Um… Just how the h3ll do I do that? I feel like I’m damaged goods. What woman would want to spend time with me? I already have lots of friends to whom I talk about my problems, what I’d really like is feisty and intelligent woman with whom I could have a little fun.
Is a 40-year old divorcing father who’s ex is 1500 miles away allowed to have fun?
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