Comments on: The Big Exhale

By: anonymous vpn

anonymous vpn — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 15:11:20 +0000

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By: Marlon Senay

Marlon Senay — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 18:01:59 +0000

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By: Krick

Krick — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 19:51:27 +0000

My parents got divorced when I was three. I think that there was some sort of joint-custody arrangement because I basically lived with one parent and spent the summers and some holidays with the other, then swapped every 4 years or so. I know my parents both feel a lot of guilt over what happened and how my childhood turned out, but I think I turned out quite normal and well adjusted, possibly because I was forced at a young age to be self-sufficient. I have no complaints or regrets about my childhood and I wouldn’t change a thing. My parents didn’t belong together and wishing that they never got divorced would have just made their (and probably my) life a living hell.

I think that the most important thing, other than hugging your kid and telling him that you love him every day, is to make sure that you and your ex-wife move past the blame and anger and treat each other in a civil manner, especially in front of your kid. Once the raw nerve endings calm down from the divorce, talk to your ex and come to an agreement that neither of you should ever speak badly about the other, even in jest, in front of your child. Your kid should never be a weapon that you guys use against each other, even unintentionally, so you should be careful to make sure that doesn’t happen.

By: dave

dave — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 17:31:01 +0000

Kusamoto,
While that is absolutely honorable, what you are doing for your kids, don’t forget that if you are miserable your kids can see it, even if you think you’re hiding it. You can’t fake happiness for 20 years.

I am not a father, so in NO WAY will I judge. But I have to ask (because I honestly do not know); what would be better as a child:

-To have two parents that don’t get along and aren’t happy (but are together).
-Or to have parents that are not together, but are happy?

You said it yourself, sometimes it’s no ones fault, and if we protect our children at the risk of our own well-being, I don’t know if that is actually helping them or not.

Either way, good luck to you, Kusamoto (and Daniel!). Life just sucks sometimes, doesn’t it….

By: Kusamoto

Kusamoto — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 04:46:38 +0000

Well, I’m a bit late on the bus here, and I don’t know if you’ll even see this, but I’m sorry as hell for you. You were the main reason I quit playing WoW, as well, but I discovered something: No matter the extenuating circumstances, no matter the concessions, no matter the effort, some relationships just DON’T WORK. My marriage is currently limping along and if it weren’t for the kids, one or both of us probably would have initiated a separation months ago. As it stands, I’m not going to have my kids grow up like I did (i.e., fatherless and with a mother I really didn’t care for) so I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make sure my kids don’t have to go through that personal hell, even if it means being miserable for the next 20 years. Sometimes it’s no ones fault. Some relationships, even after years, fall apart due to a number of reasons. Occasionally, it’s inexorable. I know that doesn’t seem to be the consensus opinion here, but that’s the way I see it. I wish you all the best on your own (and from your recent blog posts, it looks like things are….better; maybe not ideal, but better), and I hope I run into you at a Con or somesuch at some point in my life. Raspberry latte on me

By: Janet

Janet — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 20:31:52 +0000

It’s been a slow day at work, so I am going through some of my favorite sites. I knew you had quit your BRK blog, which saddened me somewhat as you are truly a gifted writer, but I understood. Family always comes first. I have just now stumbled upon, and learned of, your sad news. My heart goes out to you and your family. Divorce is not an easy thing. As many others have pointed out, your son needs to come first, and Daniel, I truly believe you are an awesome father. I don’t know you personally, but have emailed you a few times with some all important hunter questions, and just plain enjoyed reading everything that you write. You have compassion, intelligence, and a great sense of humor. I wish you all the best in the months to come. Get ready for a roller coaster of emotions. I was a divorced mom with 4 fantastic kids– which usually sent most men running away screaming—but I lived through it, and am now happily married again to the best man in the world. Stop and enjoy your son, take deep breaths, long walks, and never give up.
HuGz-
Janet

By: Dakkon

Dakkon — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 01:10:39 +0000

Dear Brk

Here on the other side of the world (Netherlands)
We want you to know that we liked the hunter blog and this one for all the good posts.
But we dont like this one.
But we can make it better:
New changes, new challanges, new oppertunities.

We know you are smart and strong enough to cope, overcome and become better out of all this.

We cant help you as much you help the w w w…
But we all still keep trying
GreetingZzz.. to You, the Kiddo, the (ex)Wife and Hobbes (and the rest)

By: Sigve

Sigve — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:30:34 +0000

So sad to hear.
I wish you the best.

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:35:57 +0000

So sorry it came to this. I doubt it was WoW as much as people are inferring, as you stated that you attemoted to remedy that (I hope) before it got to this point. Gareld’s advice is perfectly on point as I have also seen as an ex-paralegal and now in law enforcement. The people who fight over the interests of the kids both wind up losing and the kids scar the worst.

As to your bottom line: “Is a 40-year old divorcing father who’s ex is 1500 miles away allowed to have fun?”

I would offer that the answer is obviously yes, with a very careful definition of what fun is. And that would have to be defined very finely by you. My two cents-worth is that if you are looking for the same kind of options that a single guy with no child has…nah. And I’m sure you don’t want to look in the mirror 5 years from now and see one of those pathetic 45 year olds trying to live as if they were twenty. That brings you to the basic starting point of the caveat that goes something like…Point A.: I Shall Act My Own Age.

Next-the [i]kind[/i] of fun you can have should probably center around your son. Figure out what he wants and introduce him to the great things that are out there. Learning sailing? Fun for both of you. Powerboating with other single dads with beer/music/barely post-pubescent chicks and the kid along as an accessory? Not so much. I’m sure I didn’t need to spell that out, as you have Brain guiding you in most of this however, …”a multitude of counselors” and all that.

And I have to second what Hannah G said as well. A guy who’s really and sincerely into his kid is certain to attract the right kind of lady. And if that isn’t meant to be, it will serve as it’s own reward. My dad divorced and hunted around and left me on my own most of the time while he did it. Being second fiddle to that was no fun at all and left me to be raised basically by my peers.

You’ll get through this. Go to the movies as you can. Enjoy yourself. DO NOT tie down during this emotional time. Read. Think. Live.

With prayers, I wish you the best.

By: andreas

andreas — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:31:33 +0000

Made me /cry
Andreas
(forskelligtrold on the forums)